Yesterday was one of the scariest days I’ve had as a mom.
And, if you’re a parent, particularly of older kids, then you’ve probably had a
similar day at some point. You know, one of those days where something happened
that could have easily changed your life for the worse. But luckily, things
didn’t turn out to be so bad after all.
That morning like most Tuesdays, I had to do a morning drop
off at the kids’ daycare and preschool, so I could go to work. The night before
it had snowed ever so lightly, leaving a slippery film on the sidewalk. Earlier
that morning, I walked outside to pack up the car with the various bags,
backpacks, lunch bags and dance bags that we normally require every Tuesday.
This was done all before strapping the girls into the car in their respective
car seats.
When the girls and I came outside, my 4-year-old walked in
front of me as she so often does, and I carried my youngest in my arms –
against her will of course. She much prefers walking on her on, but at 20
months old, it’s much easier and quicker to just carry her. At least for me,
carrying a toddler was much easier before I was seven months
pregnant. In any case, all three of us emerged from our front door
as we do on any ordinary day. As I walked down the steps at normal pace, the
wet ground didn’t feel slippery at all until I got to the very last step. What
happened next occurred so fast that I am still trying to figure out how it
happened. As I stepped onto the last step, my foot slipped out from under me so
quickly that I completely lost my balance, falling to the ground while holding
my daughter.
As we both hit the ground, I awkwardly on my arm and leg,
and her supine mostly shielded by my body. I looked in horror trying to protect
her, but I just couldn’t. When my daughter hit the ground, her head
-- the most fragile part of her -- hit the concrete. She immediately
started screaming and crying, and I began to panic – fearing I’d injured
her. With every ounce of energy I could muster, I pulled my pregnant
body of the ground, hoisting my child up in the process. While my oldest stood frozen
in fear, all I could do was hold my youngest in my arms while she cried…and
cried for what seemed like forever.
Naturally, I feared the worse. What if she had a concussion?
Or, worse yet what if I’d caused a lifelong head injury? I mean her head did
hit the concrete, and a very pregnant mother just fell on top of
her. I kept holding her while she cried, and then I began lightly
rubbing her head trying to feel for any impressions, indents or cuts. I parted
her hair to look through her scalp for any blood. I found nothing.After about
the longest four minutes of our lives, she stopped crying, and just stared at
me with her usual content expression – blinking normally. I wasn’t
sure what to do next – I just knew I didn’t want to let her go.
My oldest asked if her sister was okay, and then mentioned
something about my earring being on the ground. A neighbor then walked over to
check on us. Still emotional and stunned, I began to tear up
thinking this whole thing was my fault. Had I just allowed my baby
to walk to the car, then none of this would have happened. What was I thinking
trying to carry a 25-pound little girl while seven months pregnant? Talk about
ill-thought decisions. Talk about mommy guilt.
After about 10 minutes of sitting on the porch hugging my
youngest, praying for forgiveness and making small talk with my oldest to put
her at ease, it appeared we had avoided a major tragedy. So, I put the girls in
the car, then wondered if I should drive to the emergency room just to be sure
everything was okay with my daughter’s head. No sooner than we pulled out of
the driveway, my youngest starts cackling with laughter at something my oldest
said to her. I breathed a sigh of relief, and at that moment had some
reassurance that everything was going to turn out okay. My daughter was acting
like her normal self even after that horrible fall. She appeared alert and ready
to start her day.
After dropping off my oldest at preschool, I called the
pediatrician’s office to see if I could get my youngest in to be seen by the
doctor. To make a long story short, my daughter was evaluated by her doctor who
found no damage to her head.
We stayed home that day – just the two of us -- so I could
keep an eye out for any latent symptoms as a result of the fall. My daughter
was totally fine for the rest of the day, but clearly loving all the extra
attention she was getting since I was watching her closely every second. I was
emotional for the rest of the day – filled with gratitude, relief and even
uncertainty. I thought about a number of things that day. Namely,
how thankful I was that our daughter escaped the fall unscathed. I
would never have forgiven myself if I hurt her and caused irreparable damage,
which could have negatively impacted her life. Yeah, I know it was an accident,
but as a mom I think we’ll always feel guilt even when things happen even
beyond our control.
Finally, I also thought about how that day would likely be
one of the last times my youngest -- soon to be middle child -- and I would be
able to spend time alone together before the baby is born in a few weeks. It
made me sad in some way as I don’t want her to feel like she’s lost her place
in our family.
Yesterday was enough to scare me for a lifetime. It is
unfortunate that we as moms can’t keep days like that from ever happening. But
one thing’s for certain, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure
(Benjamin Franklin). I think from now on I’ll just listen to my
daughter and allow her to walk to the car on her own.
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